This is a quote by Governess Ely when twitter was discussing when I got to 300 days in chastity and without Orgasm. 🙂 I have said many times in this blog how much I love and enjoy chastity that I thought it time to write why.
I am going to format this post a little different to my usual ones. I get asked questions about chastity all the time, and a lot of the time they are the same questions. So, I am going to write this in the style of a Q and A. (questions and answers) of the most frequently asked questions.  I hope it will work to answer a lot of basic questions so I can just refer people to this blog. Haha! I also want to conclude with a summery type deal, so I can really try and get my point across. 🙂
In no particular order, and just from what I can recall people usually asking me, here we go from the most basic stupidity to the darn right dopey…..
Q. Do you have a key holder?
A.Yes I do. My key Holder is my amazing Mistress, Governess Ely. Â My keys can almost always be found on a chain around her neck. The traditional place for chastity keys I feel. Recently Governess Ely said to me, she feels naked without her keys which is funny because I feel naked without my cage on.
Q. When was your last Orgasm then?
A. August 14th 2013. I remember it because it was a Wednesday night and two days later on Friday the 16th was my first session with Governess Ely. I arrived already wearing my cage, handed my keys to her and have never looked back.
Q. Do you get Milked?
A. No. I often think some people call a milking different things. Some people seem to think its where your Key holder just tosses you off for your orgasm, but I would call that a hand job. To me a milking, is a prostate milking where you don’t need to be released from you cage to release semen from your body. I think this is good for Cum consumption as apparently your still very horny afterwards.  I would class this is as an orgasm, because your willingly trying to release Cum.
Q. Does your Key Holder Tease You?
A. Indeed she does. I think when people ask this they usually mean; does she let me out the cage and let me play with myself before locking me up again? in which case no she doesn’t. but, this is where people are a little ignorant I feel because, believe me when I say, you don’t need to be out your cage to be teased. A simple thing like Mistress rubbing her perfect bottom close to my cage will certainly make the cage work. Bending over in a tight skirt or jeans/jodhpurs will work just as well. Another great one, and i think is my new favorite is the points of intrigue spikes, with a Viagra and a vibrator on the cage. That will certainly get you worked up.  If Governess Ely makes a little humiliating comment to me or even when I see pics she posts on Twitter etc. that will get me worked up. Its actually very torturous to see a lovely pic of my beautiful Mistress and not be able to touch myself. lol
Q. Do you even still get horny at this point?
A. Of course I do. lol. I am a perfectly healthy 23 year old male. I still get very horny. Sometimes I could hump the wall to get some relief but I enjoy that frustration. Governess Ely knows that I get horny and she enjoys that thought. That doesn’t  mean I need to message her every time I am just going “oh, I’m so freaking horny atm Mistress” Its a waste of her and my time. lol
Do you get Blue Balls?
A.No. I have never had ‘blue balls.’ I personally think its a load of shit, created by someone in chastity who said he “had” to have release because of pain in is balls. If he had the correct ring and spacer combination, he would be fine.
Do you Leak pre-Cum constantly?
A. Nope. I have never really leaked pre cum in my life. The only time I ever used to get pre cum, was if i was super insanely horny and and teased myself for ages. then i would get a shimmer at the tip, which I would usually just wipe with my finger and lick off. 🙂
Q. What Device are you in?
A. Â A CB6000. This was the second device I bought . I had the 3000 originally but had problems with the hings causing rubbing so I went for the upgrade lol.
Q. Is it really uncomfortable when you get Hard?
A. Ummm. no, not really. Its not super uncomfortable but its not exactly cosey either. Its enough to sometimes wake you or keep you up if you are trying to sleep but never unbearable. With the Points of Intrigue in, its a little different. They are painful, but the with Governess Ely holding my keys, it means I am suffering for her enjoyment which just turns me on more. 🙂 I do find there is something about having a night time erection, and looking down to see my little clitty desperately pressing against ever part of it little plastic prison. Haha!
Q. Is it impossible to Cum in the cage?
A. No. People seem to think it is, but its not. Before I handed my keys and my orgasms to Governess Ely I had done it Multiple times. Even with the points of intrigue in. They were never great orgasms though because you cant properly stimulate yourself.  Its also not impossible to escape from a cage. If you were so inclined you could get out, have an orgasm and get back in, but what would be the point of that? Chastity is a lot more about the mental control and submission than Physical prevention. The actual cage is just a physical reminder of your Dommes control.  I know full well that I am Governess Ely’s Property, she owns my clitty and my testies and so there not mine to ever touch. The very thought of touching myself really does make me sick to my stomach. It would be like me stealing a car which I’m just not inclined to do. Even without my cage I would still never touch myself as its not mine to touch.
Q. At this point you’ll likely never Cum again will you?
A. So what? I really want to make this as clear as I can. In every blog I have written, I never write anything because I think Its what Governess Ely wants me to say. Every word is 100% true of my own feelings and thoughts. Â Governess Ely controls my orgasms and I really don’t care whether I have another one again or not. I know that If Mistress is involved in my orgasm’s they will be the best I have ever had but, to me all an orgasm is, Â is shooting a load of cum with an intense feeling of pleasure. Does shooting a load change my feelings towards my Mistress? No! it doesn’t. And as far as an intense feeling of pleasure is concerned. I have experienced lots of moments of pleasure in the time I have been serving Governess Ely. I have also experienced pleasure mixed with incredible emotions and feelings that are so much more intense that squirting some Cum.
Q. So you have no Orgasms at all?Â
A. well you see,  Governess Ely is kind enough to enjoy all my Orgasms for me so I dont have to. 🙂 I Love it when Governess Ely tweets something like ‘one more Orgasm before getting out of bed’ or If i happen to know she is with a lover. Its the most exciting thing to know she is enjoying fantastic pleasure in and the ecstasy of an orgasm. The feelings of excitement I get, are better than any orgasm I have had previously.
Q. How do you pee?
A. I almost cant believe I do get asked this but very simply, there is a hole at the end of a chastity tube and you wee though that. If you are in a device, its best advised to sit to pee like a girl. I like the fact that I have to sit, as it adds to my enjoyment of Feminisation. Even at the times I have been allowed out the cage for a few hours, I still always sit to pee as its more feminine. It makes me chuckle to myself when I see men standing at the urinals and I have to cue for the stalls just to wee. lol. I also love times when in a Pub or something, and I am acting all manly, then I have to Que for the cubicle and have a sit down wee wee. lol
Q. Does the cage hurt?
A. Yes and no. The worst part is the underside of the ring when the skin can chaffe and rub. But with plenty of moisturizer daily, its absolutely fine and I really can go hours forgetting its even there. Until I am pleasantly reminded by an naughty erection or have to use the toilet. I have no real issues with long time lock up and am very grateful for that.
Q. Is it noticeable under clothes?
A. usually if i am wearing a tight skirt lol. 🙂 In which case I like to humiliation of the noticeable bulge, making me more sissy than girly. lol. This is a funny one though because when you first start out with chastity, you are convinced in your head that everyone can notice the bulge. But, then you have to go outside and you realize, how often do you personally just stare at someone groin? You don’t, and neither do other people. If they do, what are they going to see? a large bulge where your package is. In which case they are just going to think you are really well hung and not a little clitty locked up haha!
Q. Have you had to give anything up/make changes because of the cage?
A. ooooo, this is a good one. I sort of had to give up riding my motorbike really, but not entirely because of the cage. I have a sports bike (suzuki GSX-R600) and I think it would be very difficult and potentially unsafe to ride it in a cage. I have heard its ok to ride a more touring bike, but on a sports bike, your nut sack is pressed into the tank and that means the cage had to go one side of it or the other. I think it may be possible to ride with it on but I haven’t tried. its not entirely the cage why I stopped, Its also the money side of it too. I don’t necessarily miss my bike as much either, because when on the bike, its obviously dangerous and I have a responsibility to look after Governess Ely’s property IE. me. If i were to crash and break a leg for example I would not be able to serve her and that would make me useless. It would also mean I would have difficulty getting to my Mistress at all, and that’s not worth the risk. The other thing I do miss is being able to sleep tummy down. I used to sleep lying with my stomach facing the bed. I have had to change and adjust the way I sleep because if I try this with the cage, It crushes my testies against the ring and makes it feel like I have been kicked in the balls. This isn’t a bad thing at the right time, but when trying to sleep it gets a bit awkward lol.
Q. So why do you enjoy it?
A. This is probably;y what I get asked the most in real life rather than on the internet and I always struggle to answer it. The truth is that there are so many reasons I enjoy Chasity its hard (pun intended) to say them all. Firstly, I have always enjoyed chastity play. Even before Governess Ely was my key holder I would lock myself up, usually for about four or five days  then get dressed up sexy and cum hard multiple times. Well like two times cause that all I could ever have in the tank lol. Occasionally I would go two or three weeks denied and love the orgasm afterwards. Now, consider not only do I have a key holder in the form of Governess Ely, but she is also the most amazing person I have ever known, and I would happily suffer in chastity for her even if i didn’t enjoy, it because I want to please her. I love the frustration that comes with chastity as well. when I used to self lock I would love to go watch some porn and sit their horny and frustrated. Occasionally I would use something that vibrated to tease my cage and work myself right up. Then I would orgasm and feel shitty with post orgasm depression, which  is something I do not miss at all. Chastity also makes me feel more girly and feminine everyday. I sit to wee and I am very contempt by the fact I couldn’t even try ad have penetrative sex if i wanted to. I’m pretty sure Governess Ely once said, “if you cant fuck, then you get fucked” lol. In my everyday life I feel more confident in myself. This is hard to explain, but pre chastity and Governess Ely whenever I would talk to an attractive lady, even though we were talking of nothing to do with sex at all, their was still a voice in my head telling me I was supposed to try and chat her up. I never would because It was never  appropriate to the conversation, and I was a bit of a pussy. Now with cage on  by serving  Governess Ely I don’t feel that Pressure at all. My cage reminds me that I don’t need to feel obliged to try chat up girls as I’m a little sissy with a little clitty, and perfectly happy by that. I hope that makes some sense. I have also gained confidence because I am used to looking at and worshiping Governess Ely and she is beautiful. 🙂 Its very easy to talk to a very pretty woman when I have spent a lot of time chatting to an even prettier/sexier/dominant woman. All in all, I genuinely prefer to be in chastity than not and hope Governess Ely wants to keep me locked up forever 😉
Q. How long do you think you would like to go?
A. I have been asked this once or twice, and I really mean it when I say as long as I can. Inevitably the decision of how long I stay locked is up to Governess Ely because I am her property and its her cock to lock. lol. If there is a record among Governess Ely’s Domme friends then I would love to beat it just so she could say to them that she has. 🙂
Q. Do you still even still want to Cum anymore?
A. Ummmm, I don’t know. Like I said before, there are times when I am so insanely horny I would love an orgasm but when I calm down I don’t miss it. I think some people get a stronger and stronger urge to have an Orgasm whereas I don’t. I get a stronger urge to be with and serve Governess Ely. I think about her far more that I think about me having an orgasm. One thing I am sure of, is that I want to please my Mistress, and if she has more enjoyment from me not cumming, then I suppose that’s my answer. No, I don’t want to cum, I want to please Governess Ely as that’s far more pleasurable and rewarding.
Q. Do you ever get wet dreams?
A. Unfortunately yes I do. The first time this happened was probably just after my first full month locked and I did the old classic of waking up with sticky PJ’s on. I realized what had happened and felt really guilty as technically cum had left my body. I messaged Governess Ely a few hours later sating that I felt like i had cheated my Chasity. She was very comforting and told me not to worry, as a wet dream isnt cheating becuase I cant control it. It is however very slutty, because my body is so desperate to cum it has to release it naturally as it would to a teenager who doesnt wank.  Since that time I have had a few wet dreams and I usually wake up quite soon after they happen. I must admit, a couple of times I have lapped up the cum like a hungry kitten but other times i am just tired, wipe it up and get back to sleep lol. There is definitely something very humiliating about rolling over in the night, into a puddle of cum and the warmth wakes you up, then you realize whats happened and you have to clean it lol.
Q. How would you feel if your Key Holder wanted to make your chastity 100% permanent, by using something like a PA piercing and a Lori Tube chastity cage?
A. I wouldn’t really mind if am honest. My clitty and testies aren’t mine, they are Governess Ely’s and if she wanted that, then I would be happy to accept it for her. Personally, I actually do think its better to not be permanent because it can always add the excitement of being let out for a tease or something like that. I think if you were in a device that had to be cut off or something silly like that then it could almost loose its sense of fun. I have no problems either way but I think its fun to be teased about being out. Also, how would you put the Points of Intrigue in to play with? haha!
So, In summary. I love chastity. I love being locked and controlled by my Mistress. I can only hope that she really enjoys it as much as I do. I have told a Vanilla friend about my cage and she really couldn’t believe it. She kept saying ‘How can you hand over that much control?’ I don’t think she realized that, its handing over that control which is why its so hot. Most men think about sex  every 7 seconds, or something stupid like that. I dont. I think about Governess Ely every 7 seconds and that makes my day better than most others peoples.  As always I want to finish with The biggest thank you to the Worlds Most amazing Domme. 🙂 Governess Ely. 🙂 x x You are the best part of my life and words really cant describe my love and gratitude to you. Every day when I wake up happily in chastity, counts as you doing something for me, so I have alot of days I need to make up for in trying to give something back to you. 🙂 Biggest Sluttiest smile on my face whenever I think of you. x x
Love you all (especially Governess Ely) x x xx
Maria x x
ps. Thank you Jessica Dee for giving me some more questions to answer in this blog 🙂 Check her blog at http://jessicadee25.wordpress.com/